The Way of the Superior Man

Quick Summary

What is your true purpose in life? What do women really want? What makes a good lover? If you're a man reading this, you've undoubtedly asked yourself these questions—but you may not have had much luck answering them. Until now.

In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida explores the most important issues in men's lives—from career and family to women and intimacy to love and spirituality and relationships—to offer a practical guidebook for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. Join this bestselling author and internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality for straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help you realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise.

My Thoughts

First of all, I don't think feminists will like this book. Indeed, it exposes a vision of society that could be considered backward. The turns of phrase and some of the words used are a little strange too. At times, it seems as if we're reading a pornographic book, and I confess I don't understand the use of such writing - it wasn't necessary. On the other hand, if you overlook the sometimes less-than-perfect writing, I find the content to be unbelievably precise.

But if you don't want to get upset reading this book, you have to understand it. Deida is not stereotyping the sexes. He's talking about masculine and feminine energy, present to some degree in every person. When Deida describes masculine energy, he's not describing men, and vice versa. I think a lot of people get confused, and so hate this book, and I would have if I hadn't understood that. It could also be said that Deida set up this concept of masculine and feminine energy in order to avoid talking directly about gender. Indeed, the sometimes clumsy writing may make you think that. But from what I understood of the book, you really have to dissociate gender and energy.

Once you've understood that, you realize that Deida's words are actually very precise. I find myself in everything Deida says about masculine energy, and I find my girlfriend in everything he says about feminine energy. This is not to generalize, but in my experience, much of what Deida says is true.

This book seems to be aimed solely at people with predominantly heterosexual male energy, but I think even a person with predominantly female energy or a homosexual person reading it can learn things. Indeed, this book explains feminine energy from the point of view of masculine energy, but from the point of view of feminine energy it's still interesting. And a homosexual person will still find his or her way around the book, as the relationship advice applies to energies, not genders.

The book also takes a particularly spiritual approach. For the record, I'm not at all spiritual, so some passages seemed heavy-handed and a bit exaggerated, but that didn't hinder the reading too much, and this book reads very well even if you put aside the spiritual aspect.

In short, I found this book to be good and very precise, but to do so, you need to have a good understanding of the concepts evoked, and not pay attention to the clumsy writing. If I had to rate this book, I wouldn't give it a good mark, as there are too many formal errors that can even lead to misunderstandings, even if the content is interesting.

To Read or Not to Read

As I said earlier, this book is for everyone, since it's about energies. The one thing that may get in the way is the clumsy writing, but if you can overlook that, you can read this book without any problems, and you'll no doubt enjoy it.

The Way of the Superior Man

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